Giving your child a smartphone is a big decision. While phones can offer educational and entertainment value, they also come with serious risks like bullying, sextortion, and exposure to inappropriate content.
Questions to Ask Before Buying a Phone
Why Does My Child Want a Phone?
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Is it for safety, school, or just to fit in?
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Find out the real reason.
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If it’s to use a specific app, check if the app is age-appropriate.
Have I Talked to My Child About Porn?
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If you’re not ready to talk about porn, they’re not ready for a phone.
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Kids as young as 8 have reported viewing porn.
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Parental controls can’t block everything—open conversation is key.
Do They Understand Cyberbullying?
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Discuss what cyberbullying is and its effects.
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Share real stories (like Ashwanty Davis) to explain the seriousness.
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Talk about suicide, mental health, and how to support struggling friends.
Do They Know About Sexting?
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Sexting is illegal under 18 in many places (like Scotland).
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One in five kids aged 10–15 have engaged in sexting.
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Teach them that once an image is sent, it’s out of their control.
Are They Aware of Online Predators?
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Predators often pretend to be kids online.
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Teach kids how grooming works and how to spot red flags.
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Share real examples and videos to make it relatable and serious.
Are They Okay Being Monitored?
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Monitoring means protecting, not spying.
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Use parental control apps to track screen time, apps, and usage.
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Set this expectation before giving the phone.
Will They Sign a Phone Contract?
Create a simple contract together. Include rules like:
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No phones during meals
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Screen time limits
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Only approved apps allowed
Let them help create it so they feel involved and accountable.
Do They Know Basic Online Safety?
Teach the “DO NOTs”:
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Do not talk to strangers online
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Do not share personal info (address, school, passwords)
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Do not post harmful or mean content
Are They Ready for Social Media?
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Under 13? No social media, including WhatsApp.
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Over 13? Teach:
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Think before posting
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Be kind online
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Protect their digital reputation
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Report bullying and support others
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The Big Question: Is Your Child Mature and Responsible?
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Age isn’t the only factor—maturity matters more.
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Are they responsible with homework, chores, and following rules?
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Are they emotionally ready to handle online challenges?
Not Ready Yet?
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That’s okay! You can still stay connected.
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Try a flip phone or a basic mobile with call and text features only.
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Keep guiding and preparing them for the online world.
Final Tip:
Don’t just hand over a phone. Be part of their digital journey.
Teach them how to use technology in a smart, creative, and safe way.
